Good places to meet girls?

[quote name='mookiemeister']How about taking a dancing class? I think there are probably many girls taking dacing class.[/QUOTE]

That could work. I've though of that before but haven't tried it.
 
[quote name='radjago']
Oh and Target. Hot girls love Target.[/QUOTE]
OMG, hot girls love Target!?!? I better make my BF change jobs. :lol:

Oh serious opinion now, online is a good place to meet girls, just make sure they seem real to you. I've used places like yahoo personals and other sites to meet people.
Other than online, the only places I tend to go outside the apartment, (being the gamer chick I am) is the mall and movie theater (yeah, college too, but thats null and void since you aren't in school).
Good luck!
 
[quote name='n2x0000']Ask your friends to aid you. Go to college parties. Join a theatre company.[/QUOTE]

Everybody gets laid in college.
 
I can attest to dressing nicer. When I went to toronto the people dress much better, and I started doing the same. I get treated nicer now and seem to have a lot more conversations in stores and public places. I was at an organic food store just outside boston once and this girl started asking me about am I going to a club tonight, might as well party etc. I woulda asked her to go, but I had to get up early the next day to drive to toronto so, if I did, I probably would have fell asleep somewhere in new york the next day.
 
I'm suprised nobody has mentioned grocery stores. Every single time I go to Publix there are at least 5-10 hot girls shopping for food. Odds are the one you may meet there is single, lives on her own, and may need someone to help her buy groceries. ;)
 
[quote name='AngellicLulu']OMG, hot girls love Target!?!? I better make my BF change jobs. :lol:

Oh serious opinion now, online is a good place to meet girls, just make sure they seem real to you. I've used places like yahoo personals and other sites to meet people.
Other than online, the only places I tend to go outside the apartment, (being the gamer chick I am) is the mall and movie theater (yeah, college too, but thats null and void since you aren't in school).
Good luck![/QUOTE]

I second the movie theatre suggestion. Sadly, I think I got more dates when I worked at the movie theater in high school than I do now, and seeing as how it was a small high school alot of those dates came from the theater I worked at.
 
I have never had luck picking up girls in the movie theatre. Prior to the movie, there are hundreds of pre-teens and teens organized in huge groups outside the theatre. And during the movie all those girls are either with boyfriends or in a huge group of girls that get very annoying.
 
Yeah on second thought, the movie theater may not be such a hot spot for someone in their 20s. It's probably because when I worked there I wasn't 20 something...
 
I had a friend who always made me go to the bathroom with her at the movie theater... this was annoying. I have no idea why I had to take her to the bathroom, I guess I was her uh what's the phrase wingman? And there's always girls chattering away in the bathroom... so if you really want to pick up a girl at a movie theater... uh try the girl's bathroom.
 
[quote name='AngellicLulu']I had a friend who always made me go to the bathroom with her at the movie theater... this was annoying. I have no idea why I had to take her to the bathroom, I guess I was her uh what's the phrase wingman? And there's always girls chattering away in the bathroom... so if you really want to pick up a girl at a movie theater... uh try the girl's bathroom.[/QUOTE]

Well, I guess that would speed things up, seeing as their panties are already off.
 
hmm sound like u all need my help
as an infamous man named "the wolf" once said "move outta the sticks fellas","say goodnight gracie". My advice.....work out, get a tan, a nice car and go to the beach/boardwalk/anywhere close to the shore that's warm. You will find the bitches that are "looking" for guys in that type of enviornment. And then there is the golden rule. Unless your half way decent looking and have something to offer, namely a place to take her ass and a nice chariot to drive the little princess i'm the shit hoochie in then finding girls will be difficult and keeping them even harder. Unless of course that ugly fat guy is not you and you are viewing him with some super hot chick at the movies, mall, store ect ect ect ect. I see it so much these days, soon i'm gonna have 2 confront these unlevel partners.
 
[quote name='AngellicLulu']OMG, hot girls love Target!?!? I better make my BF change jobs. :lol:

Oh serious opinion now, online is a good place to meet girls, just make sure they seem real to you. I've used places like yahoo personals and other sites to meet people.
Other than online, the only places I tend to go outside the apartment, (being the gamer chick I am) is the mall and movie theater (yeah, college too, but thats null and void since you aren't in school).
Good luck![/QUOTE]

I've already tried Yahoo Personals and a few other online places. I've heard from and talked to a number of girls on those but it never goes anywhere. It seems most of the girls are just messing around and they all seem to be flakes.
 
[quote name='cag1000']hmm sound like u all need my help
as an infamous man named "the wolf" once said "move outta the sticks fellas","say goodnight gracie". My advice.....work out, get a tan, a nice car and go to the beach/boardwalk/anywhere close to the shore that's warm. You will find the bitches that are "looking" for guys in that type of enviornment. And then there is the golden rule. Unless your half way decent looking and have something to offer, namely a place to take her ass and a nice chariot to drive the little princess i'm the shit hoochie in then finding girls will be difficult and keeping them even harder. Unless of course that ugly fat guy is not you and you are viewing him with some super hot chick at the movies, mall, store ect ect ect ect. I see it so much these days, soon i'm gonna have 2 confront these unlevel partners.[/QUOTE]

That sounds like a good way to meet shallow girls. I want a decent girl.
 
[quote name='Collectordragon']That sounds like a good way to meet shallow girls. I want a decent girl.[/QUOTE]
Well, decent girls are hard to come by.
My best advice is hang out at a place that interests you and be alert to potential companions. I met my significant other online, but it turned out we lived right next to each other.
Hm, maybe seach livejournals or deadjournals, at least then you can get the feel of the girl ahead of time. It's also a good measure of emotional stability ;-)
Hope maybe this helps.
Boy, I've been trying to help alot of people with this stuff >
 
[quote name='AngellicLulu']Well, decent girls are hard to come by.
My best advice is hang out at a place that interests you and be alert to potential companions.[/QUOTE]

:applause: Yes indeed- just get out of the house and do stuff ya like, even if you think there's no chance of a girl showing up. You never know when one'll pop up and start talking to ya (scared the crap out of my BF when we met that way:D )

And be curteous to all the girls you meet. We talk. Blow off one chick for being fat/ugly/stupid/whatever, and she'll tell her friends who'll tell their co-workers who'll tell their friends... and pretty soon we all know to avoid the dickhead who dissed Helga, cuz she such a beautfiul person on the inside and didn't deserve it. (if you move to a very big area tho', you might avoid this.)
 
drive to one of the nearest larger cities and go to some shows/concerts. and not shows that you know will end up being total bro-fests, either, but ones with bands that girls tend to enjoy (usually groups of the more "indie" variety).

i don't know how close you are to san francisco, but if you would be willing to drive, go to this show:
RILO KILEY: 6/18/05 - Grand Ballroom, San Francisco
seriously. i absolutely guarantee you will find at least a few cute girls at this show without any guys in tow. of course, who knows how old they'll be, so make sure to pay attention to the drinking wristbands. plus, after a few drinks, chances are strong they'll be more open to having a conversation with a stranger. even if you don't like rilo kiley, just go. if someone asks if you like the band (which would be kind of a dumb question, since the general assumption should be that you do, in fact, like the band, considering you are attending their show), just say that you are unfamiliar with them, but a friend told you they are good, so you thought you'd check it out.

of course, if you aren't really into music in general, or it's just too much of a drive, then it's probably not going to work.
 
[quote name='AngellicLulu']Well, decent girls are hard to come by.
My best advice is hang out at a place that interests you and be alert to potential companions. I met my significant other online, but it turned out we lived right next to each other.
Hm, maybe seach livejournals or deadjournals, at least then you can get the feel of the girl ahead of time. It's also a good measure of emotional stability ;-)
Hope maybe this helps.
Boy, I've been trying to help alot of people with this stuff >
 
[quote name='DuelLadyS']:applause: Yes indeed- just get out of the house and do stuff ya like, even if you think there's no chance of a girl showing up. You never know when one'll pop up and start talking to ya (scared the crap out of my BF when we met that way:D )

And be curteous to all the girls you meet. We talk. Blow off one chick for being fat/ugly/stupid/whatever, and she'll tell her friends who'll tell their co-workers who'll tell their friends... and pretty soon we all know to avoid the dickhead who dissed Helga, cuz she such a beautfiul person on the inside and didn't deserve it. (if you move to a very big area tho', you might avoid this.)[/QUOTE]

Too bad girls don't show up at my house. :D
 
[quote name='thatstoobad']drive to one of the nearest larger cities and go to some shows/concerts. and not shows that you know will end up being total bro-fests, either, but ones with bands that girls tend to enjoy (usually groups of the more "indie" variety).

i don't know how close you are to san francisco, but if you would be willing to drive, go to this show:
RILO KILEY: 6/18/05 - Grand Ballroom, San Francisco
seriously. i absolutely guarantee you will find at least a few cute girls at this show without any guys in tow. of course, who knows how old they'll be, so make sure to pay attention to the drinking wristbands. plus, after a few drinks, chances are strong they'll be more open to having a conversation with a stranger. even if you don't like rilo kiley, just go. if someone asks if you like the band (which would be kind of a dumb question, since the general assumption should be that you do, in fact, like the band, considering you are attending their show), just say that you are unfamiliar with them, but a friend told you they are good, so you thought you'd check it out.

of course, if you aren't really into music in general, or it's just too much of a drive, then it's probably not going to work.[/QUOTE]

Is it common for people to go to shows/concerts alone? I'm about 2 1/2 hours from SF. What type of music is Rilo Kiley? I think the only major problem I'd have at a concert or show is that the music is usually way too loud. I guess I could always bring earplugs though.
 
[quote name='Collectordragon']Is it common for people to go to shows/concerts alone? I'm about 2 1/2 hours from SF. What type of music is Rilo Kiley? I think the only major problem I'd have at a concert or show is that the music is usually way too loud. I guess I could always bring earplugs though.[/QUOTE]
i've gone to shows by myself many times. i'm pretty sure nobody thinks anything of it.

as far as what they sound like, if you go to their official site (www.rilokiley.com) and let the site load, they have a flash player on there that automatically starts, and you can check out a few of their songs. after you listen to it, you'll understand why i'm saying there will be lots of girls there.

don't wear earplugs, though. at least not if you are planning on attempting to meet any girls.
 
[quote name='thatstoobad']i've gone to shows by myself many times. i'm pretty sure nobody thinks anything of it.

as far as what they sound like, if you go to their official site (www.rilokiley.com) and let the site load, they have a flash player on there that automatically starts, and you can check out a few of their songs. after you listen to it, you'll understand why i'm saying there will be lots of girls there.

don't wear earplugs, though. at least not if you are planning on attempting to meet any girls.[/QUOTE]

I checked out their site... meh... It does seem like stuff that many girls would like though. Do they have any fast songs? I usually prefer fast catchy stuff like some of the faster songs from pop punk bands like Yellowcard's "Ocean Avenue" (not the album just the song), Weezer's "Hash Pipe", Blink-182's "What's My Age Again" and "All the Small Things" etc.

No earplugs? :cry: But I have sensitive ears.
 
[quote name='Collectordragon']I checked out their site... meh... It does seem like stuff that many girls would like though. Do they have any fast songs? I usually prefer fast catchy stuff like some of the faster songs from pop punk bands like Yellowcard's "Ocean Avenue" (not the album just the song), Weezer's "Hash Pipe", Blink-182's "What's My Age Again" and "All the Small Things" etc.

No earplugs? :cry: But I have sensitive ears.[/QUOTE]
there are a few songs that rock a little more, but overall the songs on the site pretty accurately represent their sound, which isn't very similar to the groups you mentioned. their older stuff (which i kind of prefer) is slower and less poppy, though the bulk of their live set should be the most recent album.

i just chose the rilo kiley show because i saw them the other night here and there were a ton of girls there, but there will also be a ton of girls at pop-punk shows, bands like hawthorne heights and taking back sunday and fall out boy and crap like that. or maybe some pop-punk bands with girl singers, since that would attract girls in the audience. it's more about going to the show rather than who is actually playing the show, whether it's rilo kiley or my chemical romance or whoever else. since you have to talk in between bands (you definitely don't want to talk during anyone's set, unless it's an opener and the girl you are interested in looks completely disinterested), and that time isn't very long, it won't seem odd if you cut to the chase and ask for a phone number or screen name or whatever it is appropriate to ask for these days. plus, if you get denied you can just move to the other side of the room.

i'm pretty sure chicks don't dig the earplugs, though.
 
I'm thinking about getting my own place in SoCal to live in at least part-time. I'm sure that would help me meet more people but I'd still have the problem of a lack of social experience.
 
You can wander around concerts, assuming they aren't too huge. I went to an ani difranco concert (about 3000 people) in buffalo by myself. A lot of people were wandering around and standing in back to get a better view. Saw a bunch of girls by themselves too. BTW if ani difranco is in your area there are bound to be tons of girls at that show, and since she's very political they're more likely to have a brain on their shoulder and not be total flakes. The problem when I went was I bought it off ticketmaster and it doesn't tell you exactly where you sit, found out they had a single seat row and I ended up in that, instead of the middle of the women. There was a really cute girl by herself a few rows up I would have liked to talk to.

Also, coffee house and small bar concerts are a good place to meet people, a lot of people go alone to those things anyway. If you go to a city you should be able to just walk around and look inside all the coffee house and find them (bars at night), at least that's what I do in boston.

Though, as too lack of social skills (which I have none), you aint happy and you aint getting anywhere doing what you're doing. So what if you humiliate yourself a few times, it's not like you're ever gonna see them again or know anyone they know (this may not be relevant if you meet them in your local area and it has a small population). Would you rather sit home and pout for the rest of your life, or go out, get laughed at a few dozen times but eventually finding someone you can really relate to and get along with. She'll still probably laugh at you, but you won't care since she wants to be with you.
 
[quote name='alonzomourning23']You can wander around concerts, assuming they aren't too huge. I went to an ani difranco concert (about 3000 people) in buffalo by myself. A lot of people were wandering around and standing in back to get a better view. Saw a bunch of girls by themselves too. BTW if ani difranco is in your area there are bound to be tons of girls at that show, and since she's very political they're more likely to have a brain on their shoulder and not be total flakes. The problem when I went was I bought it off ticketmaster and it doesn't tell you exactly where you sit, found out they had a single seat row and I ended up in that, instead of the middle of the women. There was a really cute girl by herself a few rows up I would have liked to talk to.

Also, coffee house and small bar concerts are a good place to meet people, a lot of people go alone to those things anyway. If you go to a city you should be able to just walk around and look inside all the coffee house and find them (bars at night), at least that's what I do in boston.

Though, as too lack of social skills (which I have none), you aint happy and you aint getting anywhere doing what you're doing. So what if you humiliate yourself a few times, it's not like you're ever gonna see them again or know anyone they know (this may not be relevant if you meet them in your local area and it has a small population). Would you rather sit home and pout for the rest of your life, or go out, get laughed at a few dozen times but eventually finding someone you can really relate to and get along with. She'll still probably laugh at you, but you won't care since she wants to be with you.[/QUOTE]

According to one person I know in real life my social skills are fine but I'm just extremely different from most people. Read, weird as hell. :lol:
 
[quote name='Collectordragon']Wouldn't most girls think a 23yo guy with the social experience of a 15yo was extremely strange no matter how great he was in all other areas?[/QUOTE]

But the whole point is to realize that you won't have sucess with the first batch, however if you wait soon you will be a 30 year old with the social skills of a 15 year old.;)

Acting like a dumbass now is especially in your favor, the real trick of it all is to learn why people love to lie.
 
[quote name='zionoverfire']But the whole point is to realize that you won't have sucess with the first batch, however if you wait soon you will be a 30 year old with the social skills of a 15 year old.;)

Acting like a dumbass now is especially in your favor, the real trick of it all is to learn why people love to lie.[/QUOTE]

And why do people love to lie?

I'm really bad at social cues. Looking back at experiences in high school and even from the past year I'm usually totally clueless when a girl is interested in me and is hitting on me. When I was at Best Buy for a video game sale not too long ago there was a girl who worked there who helped me look for games and gave me suggestions and stuff. She spent a long time talking to me and helping me out. I really didn't pay attention to her as I was totally focused on getting games. A relative was with me and later told me that the girl seemed very interested in me. In retrospect that makes sense because why would she be hanging around me for 20 minutes or more just to help me find some games that were on sale. Oh well... :lol: I always figure out girls like me too late.
 
zionoverfire, you are smart, and on the right track IMHO

Admiting you have poor social skills is bad, you have to have confidence. Going into the hunt with this self defeating view of yourself is a problem. You make your own destiny. If you feel your social skills are lacking go out, talk, mingle, learn, gain confidence. it doesnt matter if it produces results. Gain experience like a RPG. The more practice you have the better you will be.

No matter what you do, own it.
 
[quote name='Collectordragon']And why do people love to lie?
[/QUOTE]


That's for you to find out.:D

Oh and that woman at BB might have been hanging around for commision, although I don't remember if they even have commision.

And msp knock it off, you read like a fucking self help book.
 
[quote name='msp32']And msp knock it off, you read like a ing self help book.

true, but what is this gut asking for?

start with the basics[/QUOTE]

Yes and the basis for everything is a realistic point of view.:D

Your post was a bunch of catch phrases that lost what little meaning they had a long time ago.
 
How am I unrealistic?

he said he has bad social skills, i said "improve them", which may include learning the lies you spoke of

Also, it is cliche, but you do make your own destiny.

Life sucks, get a helmet.

Sorry, I like catch phrases.
 
[quote name='msp32']How am I unrealistic?

he said he has bad social skills, i said "improve them", which may include learning the lies you spoke of

Also, it is cliche, but you do make your own destiny.

Life sucks, get a helmet.

Sorry, I like catch phrases.[/QUOTE]

Did I actually say I had bad social skills? I thought I said I had a lack of social experience. Then there's also the fact I always feel like an outsider even when I'm part of a group. I actually do have self-confidence but there's the fact I just don't fit into any groups.

I'm thinking a better strategy might be for girls to come to me. I'm already good looking and am working towards getting a perfect build (pecs, abs, biceps, the works). If I was living in the LA or OC would girls come up without me having to do any work? Of course that's a shallow way to go about it but I'd rather them come to me based on looks than money or status.
 
I like the "Target" thing... seriously though, where do I meet most of my pretty little fillies, well... there was the dorms when I lived in them my first two years of college, then there's always the bar/club, you can meet girls in class, at work, on the beach! It is nearly Summer afterall. Oh, parties are good too, and meeting people through friends. Helps if you have a lot of girl friends that bring around other girls that for you. I wouldn't suggest the gym though, honestly when I go to the gym I go to work out, not to pick up girls, and *most* girls I know are the same way.
 
Everytime someone comes up with an idea, you find something wrong with it. My walmart doesn't have good looking people....I live too far away.....I haven't had a lot of experience....blah blah blah. I think maybe (at least on a subconcious level) you want to remain lonely and you want everyone else to have sympathy for you and your situation. If I am wrong, suck it up and do something. I just read through this whole post, and I am starting to feel depressed. How can someone live anywhere in this country (save maybe Alaska) and not be able to go out and meet people? If you want to meet girls, the people on this board have given you a lot of good suggestions. If not, try porn. Lots of girls and none of them will care about your social skills.
 
[quote name='gregthomas77']Everytime someone comes up with an idea, you find something wrong with it. My walmart doesn't have good looking people....I live too far away.....I haven't had a lot of experience....blah blah blah. I think maybe (at least on a subconcious level) you want to remain lonely and you want everyone else to have sympathy for you and your situation. If I am wrong, suck it up and do something. I just read through this whole post, and I am starting to feel depressed. How can someone live anywhere in this country (save maybe Alaska) and not be able to go out and meet people? If you want to meet girls, the people on this board have given you a lot of good suggestions. If not, try porn. Lots of girls and none of them will care about your social skills.[/QUOTE]

I haven't dismissed all ideas. I'm seriously considering all reasonable suggestions. I don't want to be lonely I just have very few options at the moment. I actually didn't care about being isolated for a long time but now I'm interested in being more social. None of the options are in the immediate area. I'll need to travel at least 45 minutes to an hour for almost anything. There are certainly places outside of Alaska where people can't go out and meet people at least not in their immediate areas. Most people don't need to travel nearly an hour or more to do most things. I think getting a place in SoCal would probably be best. I'm definitely willing at the moment to drive a ways to meet new people though.
 
Just to comment on the walmart thing, maybe it's different in other areas, but here walmart is a meeting place for old people, fat people, and slobs. Then again, it's just another store around here, most people prefer target. Maybe it would work in rural areas where everyone goes there.
 
[quote name='alonzomourning23']Just to comment on the walmart thing, maybe it's different in other areas, but here walmart is a meeting place for old people, fat people, and slobs.[/QUOTE]

Good LORD you are correct.
 
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