Mmm, Juka, here's the deal.
My gf knows I have a thing for..."alternative" women, running the gamut from sexy librarian nerd to semi-gothic to punk/emo. (Note: I do not necessarily endorse these kinds of lifestyles, it is the look I'm interested in, which is a byproduct of lots of things but there's no need to expand more on it.)
Problem is that my current gf looks nothing at all close to any of those styles (though she used to wear black a lot and still does in the name of original intent - i.e., historically speaking artists were the only people who wore black consistently, and she's a writer like me, so she gets a kick out of doing that).
So she gets a little paranoid (understandbly so) if I were walk around and check out every last girl that appealed to that side of myself.
I'd rather not stress her out.
Loeb is one of those instances, though, where it seems to be "okay" in a sense for me to mention it, primarily because my gf knows part of me is thinking that. And it's fine also because, as stated before, she agrees with that assessment.
Finally, no one needs to say anything like, "Well, why aren't you with someone who matches something you mentioned as appealing?" Because I have a wondeful gf already as is and I feel absolutely no need to chance, modify, or alter it. Should someone happen unforeseen down the road, that is one thing, but meh, at that point we're playing "what-if" games and I just don't have the energy for that.