[quote name='guinaevere']
Ladies and Gentlemen, this is too true. I loved the house I grew up in because I was a child there. Loved the street, neighbors, and whole area too. About 7 years ago I decided to drive 1300 miles to revisit it. And... it's all different. Same house, same street, even some of the same neighbors. But looking at the towering trees you used to climb is different when you're nearing 6feet tall and you used to be about 3 feet tall when you climbed them.
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Just recently - and the CAGs that run around in the OTT already know this - my family sold my childhood home. Not house.
Home.
My mom had talked about selling it forever - at least the last 10 years. And within the last five, they finally fixed it up enough to put it on the market. It closed a little over a month ago. I spent the last 2 nights that we officially owned it alone in my entirely-empty room, on the ground, without pillows or blankets or anything. I did have my computer and I got online a few times, but that was about it.
I experienced a million worthwhile things in that house, things far too numerous to write down here, that leaving it sort of gutted an entire percentage clean from my soul.
About two weeks ago, the new owners were talking to my mom, and the subject of a small walkway we'd made came up. It was just a bunch of bricks in the front yard that led from the front door to the side porch, and my parents put it in quite a while ago, getting very specific bricks for it and everything. Apparently the wife is a landscaper, and she didn't want them, so I was asked to go and dig them all up and haul them out to our current house (which belonged to my late grandmother, so it at least retains a good bit of familiarity).
It was a very odd experience - going to one's until-very-recently former home, and doing (on an incredibly small scale) demolition. That I was breaking away part of the house that I cherished, and then taking it with me to a new place.
The only other thing I noticed was that the new owners took out the wet bar we had near the front door, which I think is a stupendously bad move.
I grew up at that house, always went back to it on the weekends from college (I hated my roomie and the campus I was at), watched the park across the street lose ancient trees, get a frisbee golf course, have said course ripped out because the college students were assholes, finally get a path, and change colors infinitely. I had a go kart I almost ran into the creek on a few occasions, and this was after getting the engine drawstring/starter cord caught in at least 5 different trees, which always initiated a marathon of rock and stick throwing to get that vital and crucial component back down.
I had birthday parties there - one including a moon jump - and played countless sports.
The alley behind our house was an endless race track, with a hill on one side, where I rode bikes for as long as I can remember.
And all the street lamps that glowed an eerie orange light in the middle of midnight, when my friends and I skulked around and feeling like kings of the neighborhood. Of the epic parties thrown and all the cuts and bruises and tears and everything else I'll ever experience.
And now, when I drive by it, they've already cut down the tree we had in the front yard that I'd wrap Christmas lights around. That the vines that grew up the side of the house - the brick now stained a deep green - have been cut away.
That those immortal numbers on Camelot street are no longer mine.
I am 24. I spent all 24 years in that house. Even when we moved to Austin for a year, that house was still ours, and when we came back to it, I still remember walking upstairs to what was my former room, and thought - I wonder if that ball is still up in the corner I lost so many years ago. And then as I breathed in the deep and cool air - it was January - all I could think about was setting up my bed, a tv, and finishing Secret of Mana, as I was in the 4 seasons forest area.
I can't have any of that back. And even if the owners took off in a few years and I could afford the house, it wouldn't feel the same. That all those slight twinges I'd feel at my absence of that holy place - the Christmases I'd celebrate far from it's familiar walls, the mail I'm getting in another box, the food that's being cooked on another stove - cannot be replaced if I were able to attain it back.
That it's gone.
It's all gone.
For the most part, it has been easier than I expected. That losing a home isn't nearly as traumatic as I expected it to be.
However, those last nights I spent in the house, I noticed something terribly sad.
When you take everything out of a house, it gets cold. Immeasurably cold. No matter if you're on the last weeks of Summer in Texas, and you put the A/C up to about 85, it is still unbelievably cold in your home.
As if it had died and was relinquishing part of itself as I left and closed the door for the last time.
On that final day, my parents kept telling me I could leave, that we had nothing else to do. I refused for a while. They kept asking me how much longer I'd stick around.
Until you guys tell me I can't anymore.
You can never go back home.